So it occurred to me that dialysis is actually keeping me
alive, that without it I would be dead – like, way dead. And then it occurred
to me that I’ve been complaining about this life saving process that really
isn’t all that inconvenient. I mean, I sit in a chair and watch shows, mostly.
Sure the needle sticks aren’t the greatest, it takes a lot of time, and
sometimes I leave feeling a little drained (haha), but really, given the
alternative, I’ll take dialysis every (other) day. (Still, a transplant would be just awesome, so I’ll take
this (and every) opportunity to encourage you to call Susanna and try your luck
on donation! 612-863-8886!)
Last week when Julie broke the latest in a surprisingly long
string of bad news, I began, once again, to calibrate my future to the reality
of dialysis. I started to think about teaching MITY on dialysis, and taking our
family vacation on dialysis. At first this was hard – and in some ways it will
remain hard. But after a few days I began to accommodate it. I taught MITY on
dialysis last year, the same for our vacation. And this summer PJ and family
will be in town! And I realized that I am more excited about that than I am
disappointed about remaining on dialysis.
I realized that my life, my beautiful life, continues while
I am waiting for a transplant. Days and weeks pass, milestones pass. Part of me
has been on hold while I wait, anticipating an easier course after the
transplant. First, this is in no way guaranteed, a transplant is not a cure,
not a panacea. But more importantly, my life continues to happen while I wait,
now even more so.
After I heard that Jackie was no longer a match, I decided
to start yoga, something I’ve wanted to do for years. Actually, I decided to
order yoga pants. The thing between me and yoga, for 6 or 7 years, YEARS, was
not having the right pants. As it has in the past, the health crisis broke
through a barrier and this morning I stayed after beginner’s yoga for the
advanced class. Rocked it. Next week C and I will spend a few days at the
family cabin on Lake Hubert, and I will dialyze in Brainerd. I’ve resisted
traveling because of the inconvenience of scheduling dialysis at another
clinic, but mostly because I’ve wanted to travel and live unencumbered by
dialysis. Now, with dialysis a likely part of my life for months to come, I’m
working to embrace it as the life saving measure it is, and live my life. This
is my life. This is MY life. It’s lovely, astounding, and I want to LIVE it. Like
Bukowski says
your life is your life
don’t let it be clubbed into dank submission.
be on the watch.
there are ways out. there is light somewhere
it may not be much light but
it beats the darkness.
be on the watch.
the gods will offer you chances
know them
take them
you can’t be death but
you can beat death in life, sometimes
and the more often you learn to do it,
the more light there will be.
your life is your life.
know it while you have it.
you are marvelous
the gods wait to delight
in you
Thanks for reading.